Is It Ever Possible for the Role of a Man to be Obsolete?
I saw a segment on the Today Show about the ‘trend’ of Hollywood women deciding to have babies before (or in the absence of) being married. According to the Today Show, more than 40% of children in the United States are born to a single parent household. So clearly this isn’t just a Hollywood trend; it’s actually quite common to see women in their late ‘30s and early ‘40s making a conscious decision to have a child without having a husband. But what made me chuckle was the implication that perhaps these women are making the role of a man obsolete in their lives. Ha! As if!
The role of a man could never be obsolete. As a single mother myself, I certainly understand how one could fall into the trap of thinking that with a few extra dollars, a good support system, and some adjustments to the work schedule the difficulties of not having anyone to share the load of childcare, discipline, and financial obligations with could be made rather doable for most women. But anyone who’s ever witnessed a child look like a deer caught in the headlights when a man says, “Hey, what’s up” in that boisterous way that men have. I’ll bet you that child doesn’t get exposed to many men. Anyone who’s watched a child disintegrate into tears when a man gives them a playful punch or tosses them in the air with the gentle roughness that men have. I’ll bet that child doesn’t get exposed to many men. Anyone who’s witnessed how some teenage boys (over)reactively resort to using weapons to compensate for their lack of confidence when someone bruises their ego; I’ll bet that boy didn’t get exposed to many men as a child. Any woman who’s been the victim of a swearing tirade because they rejected a man’s advances; I’ll bet that man didn’t get exposed to many men as a child. I think you get the picture — It’s the men in our society who teach us how to take risks, command respect, be playful, and grow a thicker skin. There’s so much more that a man brings to the table than money, an extra pair of hands, and sperm.
by : V.Fuller